Remember when you were a kid and you sat in the garage that smelled of oily rags and garden chemicals? Remember watching your dad with rapt attention (or your uncle, grandpa or neighbor) as they tinkered with the engine of the car or lawn mower? Remember the myriad questions you had? Why are you doing that? How do you know that's where to put the oil in? How come you have to keep putting air in the tires? Where does it go to?
Was that adult you were with willing to answer all those questions? Especially the ones that began with, "Why?" Looking back now, wasn't that a special time for you? Do you think you'd be the person you are today without that "guy talk" that went on in the garage? Boys need those moments to hang out and talk about gears, batteries or oil filters. It's a right of passage, so to speak.
Sam has never had a man who modeled normal guy behavior. His mom says he needs a Kinship partner so he can learn what dads do and do the stuff he's never gotten to do. She didn't talk about going to Viking games or to Disneyland. She merely wants her son to have the opportunity to "talk shop" with a positive adult male who will treat her son with care. She hopes he'll be able to work with tools or maybe be exposed to farm equipment or woodworking materials.
You see, she wants to make sure her son someday will be able to tinker in the garage with his own boys and know how to be a positive force in their lives. She knows he hasn't had this chance from his dad, but she also knows from the experience that her friend's children have had through Kinship Partners that this deficit can truly be erased.
Sam's mother also knows that no matter how great of a mom she is, she can never be the male influence her son deserves. Plus, as she put it, "I don't do mechanical stuff."
So, the bottom line is, can you carve out a couple of hours to spend with this 7-year-old once a week? Would you like to hang out with a very friendly first-grader and try to answer all his questions? Are you up for the rewards of seeing the bright eyes of a little boy who thrives on any little bit of attention?
If so, make the call to Kinship Partners today and we'll do the rest. It's a simple process that will make a world of difference for a child, and provide a lot of fun for you.
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