The recent clergy abuse cases brings out a double standard to some extent. I make no excuses for anyone that sexually abuses anyone and I have no time for them, but the media makes the clergy accusations a big story almost every night. Those found guilty should be punished to the full extent of the law as soon as they are convicted in a court of law and not in the media or the court of public opinion. Those who have just been merely accused are innocent until proven guilty and sad as that might be to some people that is the law of the land.
Now the double standard I talked about. Let me put this into perspective. Over 30,000 cases of unwanted sexual contact have been reported in the military. Yes, this is taking place in our coveted Military Academies and throughout the ranks. For all practical purposes, little is being done about it and the media has said little about it. There is one difference here. It’s hard to sue the military. So no lawsuit-- no story.
Apples and apples here? On one hand we have young people or vulnerable people being abused by clerics whom they trusted. People that should be sheltering them, not abusing them. People they trusted. On the other hand, think of your 18-year-old daughter being coerced into sex by her commanding officer who holds her career in his hands. I’d say pretty much, apples and apples.
Both cases are appalling but let’s be fair when we report them in the media and let’s let the courts decide who is really guilty and who is not and when they are found guilty in a court of law then let’s all get on their case.
Negative comments and behaviors have become a really big issue lately in the media and, in my mind, are being blown way out of proportion.
Our kids had some great teachers and coaches during their years in the Brainerd school system, but they also had teachers and coaches that said things like this to them: “With that SAT score you will be lucky to get a job in a fast food place,” “You ask way to many questions,” “I’ll bet you won’t make it through the season,” “You are really a hot dog,” “You can’t just get the rebound and beat everyone down the floor and score, this is a team game – so pass the ball,” “That shot of yours is terrible.”
The point of this is: Teachers, kids, bosses, fellow employees can all be negative, insulting to other people at different times throughout our life or any given day.
We would tell our kids to deal with it, work harder, enjoy the sport/class and realize it might not have had anything to do with you.
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They might be having a bad day, envious of you, had a fight with their spouse, don’t really like their job, etc…and are just taking it out on you. Remember as the Bible says, “What a person plants he will harvest” Galatians 6-7 and just keep charging ahead because God has a plan for your life and negative comments might just guide you to where God wants you. Remember to always fight the good fight and never, ever give up.” If God is for us, who can be against us?” Romans 8-31.
No matter what someone says to you it’s your choice as to how you will respond/internalize those comments.