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Non marriage

Posted: January 29, 2013 - 10:41pm

I have some good news and some bad news. The good
news is the divorce rate is going down. The bad news is that’s because
a lot of people don’t get married anymore. Now I’m not talking about
two lovebirds sharing a nest for a while or two old people sharing
their lives. I’m talking about young people living together and having
kids and not making any commitment to each other.

You would think
that if you want to take on the responsibility of raising a family,
with your significant other, you would kind of make it official. Now, I
know that there is no shame in living like this anymore. Shame went out
the window a long time ago.

But it seems to me if I was a woman
and was going to commit to having children for some guy, if for no
other reason then to make sure he was serious about the kids and me — I
would say how about we sign a contract?

Why don’t men want to do
this? Well, I can think of several reasons. First, he doesn’t want to
share his stuff with you. He just wants to share his lust with you.

Secondly, the government pays single mothers some support, and maybe if she can collect that, it will help out with the bills.

But probably the biggest reason is he doesn’t want to be on the hook for anything. He’s just not ready to settle down.

How
do we stop this? Well, some morals to start with might go a long way
but I think that ship has sailed. How about you’re not going to get
support from the county unless you tell who the father is. How about
the country takes that information and does something about it.

Mike Holst

Crosslake