My wife and I wanted to share how Cindy Clough’s article, which was submitted to the Reader’s Opinion on Friday, Aug. 17, touched our hearts. The outpouring of so much support at the time of such a tragedy is so important. It reminded us of when we lost our only son, Luke, on Dec. 1, 2009, to an accidental fresh water drowning in the family tub. (Caution: It is possible to fall asleep and drown in a tub — it only takes two teaspoons of water). At the time of Luke’s death, we were surrounded by many friends and family just like Cindy’s article indicated.
We would like to stress the importance of continued support beyond the initial loss. Losing a child is the worst tragedy a parent can experience. Our family was forever altered that morning in 2009 and will never be the same. The best gift a person can give a parent who has lost a child is talk about the child; say their name, share a favorite memory, etc. Acknowledge their existence on this earth.
Although we know Luke’s spirit is with us, we feel a big hole within our hearts. When people mention Luke, a patch is placed over that grieving hole for a while. We’d like to thank the people who remember Luke on his “anniversary date,” especially Jon and Cylinda Ring who have sent a card every year acknowledging our loss. The pain does not get easier, it just gets different.
We thank God every day for the 19 years we had with Luke on earth. He was the most sensitive, kind, and thoughtful son a parent could imagine. He made a lasting mark in this world for the person he was. Luke will always be our “Simple Man.”
John and Mary Lewandowski